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set intentions not resolutions.

img_8128Sitting here in my hoodie because it’s a cold 81 degrees down here in Bonaire and I cant sleep… feeling like I have been hit by a train thanks to the ZIKA…thinking about the first 5 days of 2017 and what I think will happen. Trying to predict the future like I have some kind of magical power. Of course the most beautiful thing in the world is not knowing, but I will always wonder. And instead of just wondering I am thinking about everything this world has to offer and that if you go after it, you can have everything you ever wanted. 2015 I moved 3 times and it was WILD but incredible. 2016 was pretty solid. Mostly chill because I stayed on the same island and didn’t move. My favorite thing about not moving was having the time to be really comfortable with who I am and get even more comfortable being by myself. I have been perfectly happy and fine by myself before moving to Bonaire but because this island is so charmingly lonely, you get better at it (or you can’t deal and you leave hating the island). What else happened in 2016? Well, amazing diving (no surprise there), huge progress with coral restoration, passed my IDC, got a little hooked on technical diving, amazing 2 weeks in Maryland with my family and friends, weekend in NC with my girls, jumped off a cliff into the ocean that I swore I would never jump off, perfected my sangria making skills (and therefore my beach sangria day drinking skills), added another year to the perpetual tan lines, incredible trip to FL, got pretty good at contouring (win.), wasted a lot of time & spent very little time wasted, got over old flames before getting burned by the same flame twice, started running and surprisingly like it, but most importantly…this year I realized that sometimes you have to stop trying to figure everything out at once. One thing at a time is the key to getting where you want to be. The unknown should not scare you, even though it tries.

This year, focus on the things you want. Be fierce. Relentless. Good things come to those who work hard and do not give up. Waiting on good things to happen to you is just basically letting other people’s decisions determine your fate. A resolution is a firm decision to do or not to do something. An intention is a mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out actions in the future. My advice, set intentions not resolutions. Intend to be more kind, more self-aware, more motivated, less unorganized or whatever you want but an intention is not a promise merely a goal to work towards.

First step, picture yourself doing whatever it is that you want to do. Maybe its a change you want to make, picture yourself after the change. Even if it seems completely impossible. Picture it. Happiness is a choice so if you are unhappy, picture yourself choosing happiness. Amazingly, once you have started picturing it, you will start doing things to bring you closer to the goal. Even if you don’t realize it. Start telling yourself in your head that you “will” reach your goal. As a natural reaction to this mentality, you will start choosing things that will make the goal more attainable.

So, among the many things I am picturing and working towards, right now I am picturing myself zika free…and I am off tomorrow so I am also picturing myself magically having the energy to get all my chores done around the house. But in all seriousness, this year I am confident that I will get where I want to be. I have set my intentions and there are a lot of them but somehow they will all mesh together. Never settle.



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