advice you didn't ask for

may your heels be high and your standards higher.

Let’s get one thing clear, having high standards does not make you stuck up. It does however, make you way more attractive than someone without them. It makes you a timeless and classic soul that respects themselves just as much as they respect others. A beautiful storm that will never settle for less than what you know you deserve and a fire that spreads far and wide in seek of what you want.

There is a difference between having high standards and having unrealistic expectations. If your standards turn into an unrealistic picture of what you want, then you might be in trouble. You might be turning into one of those people where nothing is ever good enough, and that means you will never be happy. Be realistic. We all know no one is perfect and that life has ups and downs. Try to define the line between realistic and dreamland. If you’re really careful, you can find that magic one in a million feeling and you thank your lucky stars at night that you ended up right where you want to be, next to the one you waited so long to find. It can happen.

The key to finding all those things that meet your high standards? Patience. 20 something year olds these days are interested in one thing, figuring out life quickly and proving themselves to the world as if to say that they can easily have it all. The degree, the job, the ring, the husband, the house, the car, the baby, and of course the professional photos to post online. Can I get a slow clap? It’s not about how fast you figure out your life, its about the quality of the choices you have made and knowing with absolute certainty that you would make those same choices over and over again without hesitation. Invest time in yourself and in your success. Take time to figure out what’s important to you and what isn’t. There was a time in my life that I did not know how to be by myself. The idea of being alone with nothing but my thoughts day after day was terrifying. So I went ahead and did it. It was only after about 120 days of living alone in the jungle of Thailand that I realized what kind of person I am without the influence of everyone else surrounding my life. But once I knew, I was forever changed. From then on, I knew myself better than I ever thought I could. I know now the importance of being happy alone before you can truly be happy with someone you want to spend your life with. These things take time and effort.

It is so much easier to settle. Settle for living somewhere you don’t actually want to be. Settle for a guy who says he loves you but also says you’re exhausting. Settle for a job that doesn’t stimulate your mind. Settle for a life that doesn’t make you sure you are exactly where you are supposed to be. If you have a sliver of a thought that you might be settling, then you are. Don’t panic, we have all been there. It’s not easy but you are the only one who can decide to make a change for the better. Sometimes it stings at first, but in the end you will not regret it. If you stay, chances are you will regret that.

You deserve nothing less than everything that you want out of this life and no one else gets to decide what that is except for you. So, walk out into the world in your high heels with your high standards and your chin up, otherwise your invisible crown will slip.

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-L

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